Parentpreneur: Business Asks a Lot. Parenting Asks More.

"Business requires a lot of you, as you know, personally. But parenting requires just as much if not more."

I have a pillar I call parentpreneurship. It comes down to one question: how do we balance being a parent, and in my case raising two boys and also being a grandparent, with building a business?

I do not have a perfect answer. But I know where it starts. You have to be honest about which one needs more of you, and then your calendar has to show that you meant it.

Both ask a lot. Parenting asks more.

Anybody who has built a business knows what it takes. The hours. The mental space. The way it follows you to dinner and into bed.

Parenting takes all of that too. The difference is that a business can be rebuilt. A missed year with your kid cannot.

So when I say parenting requires just as much, if not more, I am not being sentimental. I am being practical. If something has to give, it should be the thing you can make up later.

That is hard to live by when a launch is coming or a client is upset. But if you do not decide it ahead of time, the business will decide for you, and it will always pick itself.

The business is loud. It sends notifications. It has deadlines and clients and numbers that go up or down. Kids are quieter about what they need, especially as they get older. They stop asking. That is exactly why the decision has to be made in advance, when you are calm, and not in the moment, when the loud thing is winning.

Your calendar shows which one you mean

Everybody says family comes first. The calendar is where you find out if it is true.

Pull up last week. Count the hours that went to the business and the hours that went to your kids with your full attention, not half listening while you answered a message. Most people do not like what they see.

That is not a guilt trip. It is information. You cannot fix a balance you have not measured.

Do it honestly. Time in the same house does not count if your attention was on a screen. Time in the car does not count if you were on a call. Count only the hours where they had all of you. That number is the real one.

If your calendar has no protected time for your kids this week, put some there before you schedule anything else. Treat it like the most important meeting you have, because it is.

Make it specific. Not "more family time." A day, a time, and what you will do. Put it in the same calendar your clients book into, so nobody can take the slot, including you. When a client asks for that time, the answer is the same one you would give if you were already booked, because you are.

Then keep your phone somewhere else while it happens. Half present is not the same as present, and kids can tell the difference.

The time they need is not optional

Kids need to feel safe, loved, and heard. That takes time. Not quality time squeezed between calls. Real, present, unhurried time.

For me it comes down to this: if I don't dedicate the time that I need to dedicate to make them feel safe and loved and heard, I am going to mess up these little humans. That is how plainly I think about it.

There is no version of a successful business that makes up for that. I wrote about what those three words ask of a parent in Safe, Loved, and Heard.

So the time is not a nice to have. It is fixed. The business has to be built around it, not the other way around.

Build the business so it does not need all of you

Here is the real question. It is not business or kids. It is how you build the business so it does not need every hour you have.

A lot of experts are stuck because every dollar they make runs through them. They are on every call, in every inbox, answering the same question for the hundredth time. When the business needs you in every room, the hours come from somewhere, and they usually come from home.

Structure is what fixes that, not hustle. An offer people can buy without a call. A way to deliver what you know without you repeating it live. A system that follows up while you are at the dinner table.

Hustle feels like the answer because it works for a while. You can work more hours for a season. But more hours have to come from somewhere, and when you are a parent, the only place left to take them from is home. Structure is different. It lets the business keep moving when you step away, which is the only way you get to step away without paying for it later.

Look at your own week and find the one task you do over and over that someone, or something, could do without you. That is the first place to build.

It gets more complicated when you are holding more than one role at home. I talk about raising kids and being a grandparent at the same time in Building a Business While Raising Kids and Being a Grandparent.

Why this is a Freedom Builderz pillar

Freedom Builderz was built so that people don't have to die without sharing their gifts to the world. Everyone comes here with a song to sing, and we get to build the stage. But a stage that only works when you are standing on it every hour of the day is not freedom. A business that needs you in every room takes the time your kids need, and they only get one childhood. Building an asset that works without you is how you share your gift and still show up at home.

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Frequently asked questions

How do entrepreneurs balance business and parenting?

Start by admitting both need a lot of you, and that parenting may need more. Then put the family time on the calendar first, the same way you would a client commitment, and let the business fit around it. Balance is not an even split. It is a structure that protects the things that cannot be made up later.

What is a parentpreneur?

A parentpreneur is a parent who is also building a business, and who treats both as full commitments instead of letting one quietly eat the other. Mike calls it one of his pillars: how to balance raising kids, and in his case being a grandparent too, with building a business.

How do I stop my business from taking my family time?

Look at why the business needs you in the first place. If revenue only comes when you are on a call or in the inbox, the hours will keep coming from somewhere, usually from home. The long term fix is structure: an offer and a system that deliver without you in every room.

Is it selfish to build a business while raising kids?

No. Building something can be part of what you model for your kids. The question is not whether you build, it is how. A business built so it needs all of you will take time your kids need. A business built so it does not need all of you can give some of that time back.